Don't listen to your mom

Roissy shares a story:

I’m standing in the cashier line.
A young (late teens, early 20s) couple are ahead of me.
Did not see a ring on her.
Dorky man, bombshell blonde.
He doesn’t look like he has a lot of money.
Still, there they are, she’s all over him.
WTF I wonder.
At register, cashier tells dork the total.
He motions to blondie, “Nope, she’s buying.”
He walks off as she’s paying.
She pays, skips after him, all smiles.
Yup, mystery solved, I say to myself.


Mothers (and Churchian marriage gurus) often tell their sons to do the exact opposite of what women really want. Unfortunately in this Golden Age of Soy, many dads do as well.

"Be respectful! Don't be afraid to cry! A gentleman always pays! He always opens the door!"

Be nice!

This of course causes cognitive dissonance in nice guys as they see the jerks taking away the nice girls. Most of them never learn from the experience, though, and double down on the behavior, hoping they'll prove through the Virtue of Niceness that they're a great catch.

Old, old story.

It's necessarily the case that being a jerk is the best way to get a woman - but it is more masculine than being "nice" and letting the woman lead you around.

A rough and tough outdoor dog is more likely to breed than a tame poodle. He's also less likely to be castrated by the woman of the house.

Moms often try to get their boys to be "nice" to girls, which has the unfortunate effect of handicapping their sons' futures. This is yet another reason why willfully single moms are a pox on the earth - there's no husband and father around to at least give the young man a chance.

Instead they learn to appease. The dork in Roissy's tale had game which overcame his appearance. You can get away with being unattractive, but escaping both bad looks and early "be nice" programming is a tall order.

Alpha Game 2011

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